One of my take-home ideas from the World Domination Summit (WDS) 2014 was: “Spend time with people who make you feel more like you.”
As that idea has proven itself true over the last few years, I’ve added a complimentary thought… “Spend your time doing the things that make you feel more like you.” We tend to find a lot more of “our people” and opportunities that are more right for us when we’re doing what we love than when we are doing what we think we ought to.
Sounds simple, right? But how much of our lives do we invest in the things we do because we have to, because someone else wants us to, or that we feel like we “should”?
I don’t believe that it is necessary to renounce conventional ideas of success or ignore the opinions of the people who matter to us. We need to understand why we are doing things, and if what we’re doing isn’t right for us, we need to stop.
When we are with those people who make us feel more like us…
and we tell them about what we are doing…
how do they respond?
These are people who recognize when you are on the right path and will help keep you there. Some call this your tribe. Finding your tribe takes time and commitment. If you’re anything like me, keeping these people in your life can be a full-time job. My tribe is international, nomadic, and entrepreneurial, which can make them hard to keep track of. That said, the return on investment for me is amazing, hands down the highest return of anything that I do.
About two years ago I gave a great friend that I hadn’t spoken to in a while the rundown of what I was doing with my life. There was silence at the other end of the phone when I described a full-time office job, move to DC, another masters degree, a “grown-up” lifestyle, reasonable work hours… but when I mentioned my new sailboat, trip to Thailand, non-profit board opportunity, and plans for this blog and consulting… “Oh, thank God – you’re still the person I know.”
Developing world travel and work is one place I find my tribe—I need to spend time in this part of the world, where I can take a moto taxi, listen to the power lines faintly sizzle, and forget the some of the realities of my privileged life. The people you find here are fantastic. On the Thailand trip, I met a disaster logistician on the dive boat… taking a break on his way to the Philippines, most recently working in the Congo. We talked a combination of diving, travel and disaster logistics. It didn’t really matter what we talked about. There was the moment of recognition that he was one of my tribe, and it is always so nice to find them.
It’s as easy and as hard as that. Spend your time with people who make you feel more like you, and spend as much time as you can doing things that make you feel more like you.
It’s a spiral of positive reinforcement.
Have you found your tribe? How do you feel about the path you’re on? Who and what keeps you on the right or the wrong path in your life? Leave a comment!